The "busy-ness" of the twentieth century has to led to a society that shuts out everything, even the important stuff. We are no more present, but lost in the noise of our minds. Gone are the days where we take the time to smell the roses because there is always something else more important to attend to.
We Have Become Detached!
Detached from the world around us, our feelings, our emotions and detached from who we really are.
Allow yourself to develop some self-awareness and experience the moment and learn to appreciate the day and connect with the Now. If you do something wrong or less effective than you would like, how often do you harshly criticize your efforts?
Now, if you do something well, how often do you celebrate your victory and congratulate your efforts?
Allow yourself to be passionate and get excited about things. You are not too mature to feel passion and excitement.
Stop Letting Everything Distract You!
Too much distraction just takes away from the specialty of the current moment. Have you ever stopped to notice how often your thoughts are sitting either in the past or the future? We make ourselves believe that what happened in the past was so important that we have to mull over it again and again. Or we worry about the future so much that we forget that the future hasn’t even happened yet.
All you have is right now. When you are old and gray, will you be overjoyed that you mind was always in the past or the future? No, you will cherish the moments most that you were 100% present. The moments where you can remember every single second of what happened. The moments where you were “present” and "in the moment".
The birth of a child, your best birthday present, your wedding day, an amazing sunset, a once-in-lifetime wildlife moment etc. We have all had experiences that we will cherish forever. It was these moments that we weren’t being bothered by thoughts of yesterday, tomorrow, some kind of stress etc.
"Be present as the watcher of your mind — of your thoughts and emotions as well as your reactions in various situations. Be at least as interested in your reactions as in the situation or person that causes you to react. Notice also how often your attention is in the past or future. Don’t judge or analyze what you observe. Watch the thought, feel the emotion, observe the reaction. Don’t make a personal problem out of them. You will then feel something more powerful than any of those things that you observe: the still, observing presence itself behind the content of your mind, the silent watcher." ~Eckhart Tolle
I Normally Don’t Act Like That
Self awareness also extends to moments when you lose your temper and act in a certain manner that is not part your personality…. So you think.
If you are in a bumper bashing with someone and you kick their car, swear and shout at them because you are so angry and act in such a way that you can hardly recognize yourself.
I’m sorry to tell you, but that crazy person is actually you. Those actions were done by you.
A powerful part of leadership self-awareness and that you can take a step back to monitor your reactions to situations, find what triggers those parts of you that you do not like and work on making yourself a better person in the long run.
No one is perfect and we all have our faults, but if you don’t like the way you react to situations, then you have the power to change that.
Most people will either not try to change or give a little effort and then when times get tough, they throw in the towel and say : "Well, that’s just the way I am and I can’t change it".
That is just an excuse.
Observing yourself and your reactions can be testing and difficult, because it forces you to question why you do what you do and when you start getting answers you may feel vulnerable or defensive.
Most people just don’t want to go there. They don’t want to expose their vulnerabilities and insecurities. I don’t blame them, but if you really want to improve your self-awareness and be a better person to your family, friends, strangers, Yourself, then you have to take the plunge and sort through that mess in your head.
Your life is amazing! Learn to experience the greatness that it provides for you.
I’m not saying to be naive and pretend that there is no stress, anger and pain. I am just saying that there is more than that, if you allow yourself to experience it.
Get In The Moment!
Here are some very basic tips that you can do today to get in the moment and enjoy today.
- When you get home, after dinner etc, go outside and look up at the stars. Be amazed at what you see and how extremely vast it is. You might even see a shooting star!
- Hug your partner, child, family member or best friend and genuinely tell them how much you love them and appreciate all that they bring to your life. Watch their reaction and feel the feeling of being 100% in the moment.
- Look at some plants or trees. Go up real close and examine the textures and colours. They are Alive! Actual breathing, consuming, self-sustaining things. You might be lucky enough to see a small insect going along its business that you would never have noticed before. The plant is probably that insects whole life!
- Have a conversation with someone and be super aware of what they are saying and how those words affect you. Hear your brain trying put it together and how it wants you to respond.
- Learn to meditate! It is one of the greatest methods of being in the present moment.
You only have right now. Right Now. It will never come back.
Attend the lifelong college of Yourself! Learn about who you actually are and the kind of person that you aspire to be. Study the events and circumstances that affect you and work tirelessly to changing the parts of you that have do not suit your future self.
Don´t worry about not having time, because you have your whole life. You not going anywhere.
If you can improve 0.5% on just one part of your life, every day, imagine the kind of person you will be in 10 – 20 – 30 years time.
Thanks for reading,